By Lita Batho, September 23, 2024
I have a primary reason for homeownership. Whether cultivating my garden, decorating a room, or filling my closets with whatever equipment and clothing my life seems to require, I can do so because I have this fancy box, and the land it sits on..
In case you ever wonder why I got into real estate, it wasn’t an HDTV style love of houses! Nope, it wasn’t money either, (although I appreciate and need income in exchange for my services). I began my work in real estate because I enjoy transactions and advocating for my clients. I am skilled at teaching, negotiating, and setting expectations. But underneath it all, I love having my own house, and I love the ‘bundle of rights’ that come with it. I believe everyone should have access to this, if they want it.
One of the fundamental reasons people created the concept of property ownership, boundaries, and borders is the need to feel safe and at ease. We need a home base where no one is going to bother you or bug you. Like needing food, humans also need a safe spot to sleep, and live.
The Bundle of Rights
In real estate, the “bundle of rights” represents legal rights that are yours along with owning property. These include: The right of possession (you get to live in it), the right of exclusion (people can’t come in unless you invite them), the right of disposition (you could sell it, you could rent it, transfer your rights to someone), and my favorite: the right of quiet enjoyment. This last one means that each of us has a right to enjoy our property undisturbed by others.
The right of quiet enjoyment obligates us to negotiate with neighbors, so that each of our versions of ‘enjoying our property’ don’t infringe on the others’ rights.
The story begins…
Listen to this: when I first owned a home, Portland summers were cooler and I didn’t have air conditioning- I kept windows open at night. One early evening, I was laying on my bed reading, hearing the faint sound of breeze in the trees, and maybe a distant cricket, when I heard a noise like an air compressor. I thought, “WHO is using an air compressor at this time of night?” and went to my window to look out. There, between my house and the neighbors was a newly installed central air conditioning unit. The horror. It was directly below my bedroom window, next to the neighbor’s house which was only about 10 feet from my house. My right to quiet enjoyment was suddenly feeling uncertain.
I stared at it in dismay for a minute, and soon I was talking to the neighbor about it. The neighbor at that time wasn’t very sympathetic. They said “I want to be cool” and I said “I want to sleep without that noise going on and off!” I offered to bring them up to my bedroom so that they could hear how loud it was. Eventually, after various discussions, my neighbor agreed to turn their A/C off after 10pm. About 5 years later, they moved the whole air conditioning unit to another side of the house so that I wouldn’t hear it. (I was just as surprised when I looked out the window and saw a bare patch of dirt where the A/C unit had been, as I had been when it appeared in the first place). Years later the neighbor and I laughed about this. I said, “I’m sorry, I was less flexible in my youth” and she said “I didn’t always see things from others’ perspectives” and we agreed to put it all behind us.
Although this took some time, it was a great outcome. It took a little negotiation and understanding, and a common goal (we both want to live in peace), but we eventually arrived at a solution that satisfied both of us.
Resources:
A recent episode from the Life Kit podcast focused on neighbors and how to resolve disagreements between them (interestingly, the majority of neighbor complaints in a 2023 study of 11,000 reports in the Seattle area were about weeds). Key points from this podcast included:
- Step back for a moment, and wait until you have the emotional bandwidth to approach the issue
- Get curious: what is it about this issue that really bothers you? What could be going on with your neighbor, and their life? Are there underlying needs or viewpoints?
- Try to address the issue in person. In person communication will help avoid misinterpretation of tone or message. If this doesn’t feel safe to you, a note is second best! If you leave a note, humanize yourself by adding a photo and/or keep your language neutral, and offer to discuss in person if that feels appropriate. Try to find common ground with your neighbor.
- If resolution stalls, it’s possible to involve your local resources, for instance city agencies which govern noise nuisances, unsafe behavior, and so on. If you live in a community with an HOA, there will be avenues of recourse there as well.
Living in an urban area, near other people is a great opportunity for community, friendship, and shared experiences. It can also include some compromises to protect everyone’s rights to enjoy their property and live harmoniously. If you’re interested in listening to the entire (20 minute) podcast on Neighbor Drama, click HERE or find it in your podcast App at Life Kit.
Best wishes for harmonious and enjoyable living this fall and beyond!
Lita Batho
Broker | OR & WA
She/Her
Lita has a genuine enthusiasm for navigating home purchases and sales with the intention of outperforming the market and making the process stress free and transparent for her clients.
"I began real estate as an independent agent, however during the pandemic, decided to accelerate my experience and build skills more quickly by serving as a listing specialist for a highly productive, all-female team. Even though there were only 5 of us we were one of the busiest teams in the city, and over 2.5 years, I helped over 60 sellers successfully navigate the sale of various property types throughout the Portland Metro area. From condos and fixers to bungalows and homes with million-dollar views, I thoroughly enjoyed connecting with a diverse range of clients, including seniors downsizing, young families seeking more space, and single women embarking on their next step.
While this experience was rewarding, having accelerated my experience, deepened my knowledge, and honed my skills, it felt natural to return to solo agency in 2024. I'd missed the autonomy and agility that come with being a solo business owner, considering that I've been a business owner for the majority of my working life, and I was eager to leverage these qualities to further benefit my clients.
I firmly believe that whether you're buying or selling a home, you deserve genuine and excellent representation. My consistent client feedback highlights my strengths in setting proper expectations, negotiating, timely communication, and efficiency -- all while being kind, direct, and a dedicated advocate.
My goal extends beyond successful sales and purchases, however; I aim to earn my clients' trust, leading to their recommendations. The highest compliment I can receive is that a past client trusts me with their own friends and family."
Originally from Minneapolis, Minnesota, Lita relocated to the Pacific Northwest in 1995 and has lived in Portland since 2001. She has an small business background, and a zest for negotiation, having grown up in her mother's retail shops and selling Christmas trees for her dad. Lita spent several years as a steel sculptor and public artist in Seattle, as well gaining extensive experience as a yoga teacher. When not working, you’ll find her cultivating an ever-expanding flower garden, doing home improvement projects, making art, or hiking in Forest Park or the gorge.
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